September 2016

4 Secrets to Getting Over a Difficult Situation

The human experience is filled with love, passion, creativity, joy, connection, compassion, laughter… and the taste of chocolate. But because we as human beings learn, evolve and grow through life’s ups and downs, our experience also includes plenty of difficult situations that round us out.

The key is to not let life’s difficult situations get the best of you.

Think about the most gut-wrenching situations you’ve endured in your life. Doing so likely brings up some very uncomfortable feelings. And the associated memories may stir anxiety, anger or sadness, and thus, may continue to quietly affect the quality of your life. This is a predicament many of us face.

Now imagine how you would feel if you were able to get over these feelings. By “get over” I mean no longer suffering over something that happened in the distant past. I know this is possible because Angel and I have both personally come to peace with extremely difficult, heartbreaking situations, and we’ve witnessed hundreds of our course students do the same.

So what are the secrets? Here’s what works for us…

1. Practice noticing, and then letting go of, your ideals.

When a difficult situation from your past stirs anxiety, anger, sadness, and so forth, it means [Read more…]

“Trees that are slow to grow bear the best fruit.”
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How often has this happened to you? …

You want to do more with your life – get into great shape, pursue a hobby you’re passionate about, start your own business, or work toward a new career, etc. You start building a positive habit that will take you in that direction – exercise, waking up early, writing, meditation, an evening routine, studying, etc.

You begin with a lot of determination (for a week maybe). Then something makes you skip your habit for a couple of days: a new project at work, unexpected household events, illness, family coming to visit, and so on.

Those “busy” days keep popping up, and so you skip more often. Before long, you abandon your new habit altogether.

It’s frustrating isn’t it? Trying again and again to build positive habits, but not being able to?

Sometimes you feel that you simply don’t have it in you to do anything anymore. You are just too busy, too old, and just plain exhausted.

But what if that’s not true? What if the only things holding you back are a few limiting beliefs? And I’m not talking about negative beliefs.

We hold numerous beliefs about what works, about the correct way to do things, and about what we need to do to be successful. And on the surface, many of these beliefs sound quite positive and motivational, and they are in some situations. However, in many other situations, they turn into motivational myths that completely cripple our progress and prevent us from building positive habits. Let me explain…

Myth #1: All you need to do is work really, really hard to be successful.

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1. Practice noticing, and then letting go of, your ideals.

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Myth #1: All you need to do is work really, really hard to be successful.

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1. Practice noticing, and then letting go of, your ideals.

Myth #1: All you need to do is work really, really hard to be successful.