Archives for June 2017

20 Mantras that Will Adjust Your Attitude (When You Can’t Adjust Anything Else)

06.25.2017 by Marc Chernoff // 31 Comments

20 Attitude Adjustment Mantras for Moments When You Can't Adjust Anything Else

If you want life to be happier, you must adjust your attitude. It’s how you deal with stress that determines how well you achieve happiness.

This morning a seasoned psychology professor walked up on stage to teach one final lesson – a stress management principle – to an auditorium filled with students who were about to graduate from college. As she raised a glass of water over her head, everyone expected her to mention the typical “glass half empty or glass half full” metaphor. Instead, with a smile on her face, the professor asked, “How heavy is this glass of water I’m holding?”

Students shouted out answers ranging from a couple ounces to a couple pounds.

After a moment of fielding answers and nodding her head, she replied, “From my perspective, the absolute weight of this glass is irrelevant. It all depends on [Read more…]

9 Rampant Toxic Behaviors that Break Relationships Up

06.18.2017 by Angel Chernoff // 31 Comments

9 Rampant Toxic Behaviors that Break Relationships Up

Our behavior is a small thing that makes a big difference in our relationships.

This morning I saw a middle-aged woman ferociously slam the car door in her husband’s face and storm off into a department store. Then, an hour later, I couldn’t help but notice two 20-something friends sitting next to me at a local coffee shop, the man staring down at his iPhone the entire time his friend shared with him her concerns about her sister’s drug addiction. And just now I came across someone’s rant on Facebook about their significant other that concluded with, “ALL MEN are exactly the same!”

Most of us have likely done something similar in our relationships at some point, because relationships aren’t easy, and sometimes we make missteps. In fact, let’s be honest – we’ve all acted in toxic, damaging ways at one time or another. None of us are immune to occasional toxic mood swings. But that doesn’t excuse what we do to each other.

With practice, we CAN do better. [Read more…]

7 Things You Have to Stop Believing to Live a Successful Life On Your Own Terms

06.11.2017 by Marc Chernoff // 33 Comments

7 Things You Have to Stop Believing to Live a Successful Life On Your Own Terms

Since the mind drives the body, it’s the way we think that ultimately makes the dreams we dream possible or impossible. Our reality is almost entirely a reflection of our thoughts and the way we routinely behave based on what we believe to be true.

The problem is, what we believe to be true, isn’t always the truth.

And unrealized dreams – and regrets – are gradually born in our lives when our misguided beliefs stop us from being our best.

This phenomenon occurs in our lives more frequently than most of us realize. [Read more…]

4 Things I Learned by Stepping Out of My Comfort Zone 850 Times in a Row

06.04.2017 by Kendra Wright // 71 Comments

You hope to meet incredible people, but you’d rather bite your lip than make small talk with strangers. You want to build that side business you’ve been daydreaming about, but the complexities of actually starting it make the palms of your hands sweaty. Speaking up and adding value in corporate meetings could improve your reputation in the eyes of your boss, but you’re scared of saying the wrong thing. Circumstances like these – the ones that are fundamentally important in the long-term, but downright terrifying in the near-term – are incredibly common. And of course, the easiest reaction to these circumstances is avoidance. But that would be a huge mistake!

In fact, if there’s one thing I’ve learned from completing over 850 self-assigned comfort zone challenges, it’s this: [Read more…]