Comments on: One Simple Perspective Shift that Will Change the Way You See the World

By: Rex Obada

Rex Obada — Wed, 04 Oct 2023 07:06:16 +0000

Perspective is indeed everything.
Thanks a lot!

By: Kris Morgan

Kris Morgan — Fri, 07 Apr 2023 13:03:58 +0000

I think we’ve met. Somewhere, sometime, not sure when but i feel like some of the writings are just for me or about me. I used to be optimistic then i was married, beaten, broken and then divorced. I was a single mom and learned pretty quickly that I was the only person in my life that I can count on. The other thing I learned is to never get your hopes up because disappointment is devastating. Its better to not have expectations but if you do then expect the worse. Often your pleasantly surprised when it goes well.
I cant break this mindset. I dont know how snd everyone tells me I shouldnt be this way but no one tells me how to not be. They certainly dont try to change my mind either.
So i enjoy your writings. Thank you for the encouragement or glimpse of what could be.

By: Tina Mathewson

Tina Mathewson — Tue, 04 Apr 2023 15:49:54 +0000

I have enjoyed your story today. I have some of the same thoughts and feelings of some of those people in above stories. Thank you 🙂

By: Noah William Smith

Noah William Smith — Tue, 04 Apr 2023 15:24:43 +0000

Hi Marc and Angel 🙂
Hope you are well today.
Thank you for sharing the essay.
After reading your essay, my takeaway is that people are complex and creative. To protect ourselves from further emotional pain and potential unhappiness, we sometimes tell ourselves the stories we feel we want and need to hear.
I agree that a different perspective is often needed to complete one’s personal narrative about a situation. When I reflect and consider all the possibilities, I often come to new insights in my life.
Sometimes those insights hurt, but only because my expectations were not right to begin with. I sometimes discover I had some expectations from others, whereas I knew that was not wise. Making myself aware of that, helps me to manage my expectations better again. As we all know no-one knows what normal expectations are and neither do I, so daily management is needed.
Keep up the insightful and thoughtful essays :-).
Kind regards
Noah William Smith

By: Kim

Kim — Tue, 04 Apr 2023 11:06:35 +0000

The timing of this was amazing. I know I have to be vigilant in the story I tell myself which are rarely true and cause me to take things personally when friends or family fall short of my expectations. The story I keep telling myself is that “I don’t matter” I am not appreciated or “they don’t care”. These aren’t based on the truth but on my own insecurities from a rough time in my childhood. To make things worse I often react instead of respond and the end result is I feel hurt and so does the person at the receiving end, all of which could have been avoided had I asked myself the question ” what story am I telling myself” Thank you for this wonderful tool.

By: Pallavi

Pallavi — Tue, 04 Apr 2023 03:51:38 +0000

I really wish my daughter had access to these tools, before she gave up. She was a fighter brimming with positivity, but she fell victim to her circumstances.

By: Nomusa Ndlovu

Nomusa Ndlovu — Tue, 04 Apr 2023 01:43:38 +0000

Thanks Marc and Angel, very true about our own thinking. Negative thinking affect us a lot.

How we see the world, each time we take things personal without widening our thinking.

The story I am telling myself, is very toxic.
GOOD example of someone failing to call during and the story of myself becomes negative. I like the example and also the example of an elephant, where life is felt at different levels.

I cannot stop reading your news.
Thank you for changing my life and my story.

By: Sherrill

Sherrill — Mon, 03 Apr 2023 23:51:48 +0000

Great article! I’m going to recommend to my clients that they sign up for your newsletter! Such useful information and perspectives. Thanks for all you write!

By: Allison Marrie

Allison Marrie — Mon, 03 Apr 2023 22:50:23 +0000

This sooo true! I am great story teller lol. I listen to Byron Katie, a spiritual writer, and she talks about something similar and asks 4 questions
Is it true?
Can you know that it’s true?
What happens when you believe that thought?
Who would you be without that thought?

Anyway thank you. I needed the reminder today, <3

By: Jody D

Jody D — Mon, 03 Apr 2023 13:48:05 +0000

Excellent essay and reminders here, M&A. I often have to remind myself that I could be operating on old or misguided assumptions. I put a note in my work-space that says “Have you visited your assumptions today?”

Sometimes we form an opinion about someone or some idea and then cling to it from then on. I’m amazed at the number of people who absolutely certain that their point of view is correct and refuse to consider new information.

By: Beverly Herald

Beverly Herald — Mon, 03 Apr 2023 12:17:01 +0000

Wow! This post showed up in my email inbox at a perfect time!

My recurring thought/story lines up with your example of not receiving a call from a loved one on time, and it also lines up with what Jason mentioned above in his comment. When my boyfriend or family fall short of my expectations, I often take it personally and I sometimes even blow up on them. So, I’m going to start using “The story I’m telling myself…” phrase and these questions. And I’m looking forward to you and Angel announcing your next live seminar. I would like to attend.

Thank you so much for this post! And thank you for your book and other teachings too!

By: Caroline Driver

Caroline Driver — Mon, 03 Apr 2023 12:16:06 +0000

Brilliant. I need to remember this at midnight each day, which tends to be the time my mind is running away with all sorts of ridiculous scenarios, catastrophising like crazy and keeping myself awake.

By: C Schwartz

C Schwartz — Mon, 03 Apr 2023 11:55:36 +0000

Couldn’t agree more….I might add that improving our ‘daily perspective’ can be as simple as changing and forming better daily habits…it’s easy to begin each day carrying over the negative thoughts from yesterday (whether it’s bitterness towards something that ‘happened to you’, the current political climate, or even your favorite team lost a tough game)…starting each day with positive habits can change your perspective…immediately upon rising each day I make an entry in my Gratitude Journal (‘what am I grateful for today’)…what a difference maker! I then look to read something inspiring (which today ended up being this post!)…the new day begins so differently with just a little adjustment in behavior…

By: Jay

Jay — Mon, 03 Apr 2023 11:21:41 +0000

Wonderful! The simple phrase and questions you’ve provided will certainly change my thoughts and spare some unnecessary pain when my wife and I get caught up in future disagreements. Too often I take her bad moods personally. For example, if she pulls away from me, or if I feel like a kiss I gave her isn’t reciprocated, I tend to get upset. In the heat of the moment, the story I tell myself is that she’s doing this on purpose to me, when in fact she’s just dealing with her own issues–her own bad mood. And sometimes the reverse situation happens too–she takes my bad moods personally.

Anyway, I’m going to share this post with her, and hopefully we can work through your suggestions here together. This won’t be the first time either… We actually enrolled in your happiness course together last year, and implemented some of your suggested daily rituals into both our personal relationship and our side business we run together. And we’ve seen incredible progress on both fronts. We haven’t done any reframing exercises yet, but after reading this, I see incredible value in doing so.

Thanks, as always.

By: Meg

Meg — Mon, 03 Apr 2023 10:47:24 +0000

Marc and Angel, I actually attended your live Think Better event in Orlando last year, and this post reminded of the self-inquiry reframing tools you introduced there. I’ve actually been applying self-inquiry on a weekly basis and it’s really shifted my perspective in a positive way.

The story I kept telling myself is that I wasn’t good enough or educated enough to take the next step in various parts of my life. But with your guidance and the tools you provided me, I’ve been pushing past this story over the past few months and I’m seeing incredible results. 🙂